I'm not doing this anymore

What if there's nothing to fix? Learn why chasing self-improvement keeps you stuck and how to surrender to what you actually want in your life.

Self-Love Letter Newsletter ๐Ÿ’Œ

Hi Reader,

I know it's not just me who constantly has a list of things to change about herself, and I know I'm not the only one with this voice inside my head:

When I get this, I'll be happy.

When I do this, I'll be abundant.

When I change this about myself, I'll be worthy.

We think that changing our situation or changing ourselves - our habits, our mood, our emotional state - is what will cause life to rearrange itself into that perfect, fulfilling dream reality we're seeking. Then we'll finally be loved.

Sometimes that constant self-improvement makes us lose the sense of direction.

As if the thing we're trying to change is the end goal, not just a means to an end.

I want to reframe this a little, because I too get stuck in this endless cycle of self-improvement and fixing.

Here's the truth: there's nothing to fix. And you are so loved.

When we think we have to change a specific thing to get what we want, that's simply the ego's idea of white-knuckling control over outcomes. We think we know what will get us there, but it's just an illusion of control.

In truth, the Universe doesn't care how you get to the feeling you're seeking. The end goal is the experience that allows you to feel a certain way or become a certain version of self - not our carefully constructed plan of what needs to change first.

You see how the ego tries to remain in control? It provides more homework, more guesswork, more fixing to keep the madness going. We think that if we change ourselves first, we'll be more likely to receive what we want because the work is done. It'll be faster.

But here's what actually happens: your end vision is the starting point. And then, if a change in habits or mindset is required to obtain it, be ready to receive it, and hold it - the Universe provides opportunities for you to become who you need to be.

It all starts with your wants, your wishes. That's the catalyst.

So go all in on that and see what happens.

Decide what you want to manifest (or rather, admit it - we often suppress our desires). Then surrender and wait for further instructions.

And if you don't know how, or if you need help regulating your emotions in the meantime while you wait for things to unfold - that's exactly what therapy, counselling, coaching are for.

Maybe you're resistant to asking for help because you feel like you should be able to figure this out on your own. I've been there too.

But here's the reframe: admitting you need support isn't a weakness or proof that something's wrong with you. Sometimes it's just the faster path - and the Universe works through people, too.

So if right now, a program or a coach speaks to you because it feels like the next step - maybe that's the Universe's way of providing you with exactly what you need. Not as something to "fix" you, but as the opportunity showing up when you're ready for it.

In my program, we learn how to regulate your nervous system to normalize having what you want. We also remove the anxious noise so you can actually hear and tune into your inner wisdom - the only compass and advisor you'll ever need.

Speaking of which- I just posted a new video that dives into something I hear all the time: "Why can I manifest small things but the big ones seem to delay?" We think it's easy to manifest a free coffee or a random sum of money, but then the bigger things - those that define our dream reality - are lagging behind.

>> Watch it here if it sounds familiar <<

Or simply hit reply if you're struggling with anything I described in this email. I read every response.

And remember:

You are brave.

You are loved.

Be kind to yourself!


Marta

Emotional Mastery Coach in Manifesting

MentalDietWithMarta.com

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